The Shape of Love: The Cross | John 15:9-14 Lesson [Slideshow]

What Is Love? What Does Love Look Like?

In this lesson, based on the Sermon on John 15:9-14 that I first preached back in August as a visiting minister and then tweaked and preached at my home church in December 2018, I argue that true, crucial love looks like the Cross (Latin: crux).

It consists of a vertical component (obedience to God in Christ) as well as a horizontal component (self-sacrificially striving for another’s ultimate good).

Please see the main points, videos, slideshow, Greek text, translation, and sources below. Please let me know if you have any comments/questions!

Main Points

  • Vertical love: obedience to God in Christ (Mt 22:35-38; cf. Dt 6:5; Jn 14:15, 23; 1 Jn 5:3, etc.)
  • Horizontal love: actively, self-sacrificially striving for another’s ultimate good (Mt 22:39 cf. Lev 19:18; 1 Jn 3:16, etc.)
  • Christ sets the standard for both dimensions; there is no greater love than His (Jn 15:13)
  • Fruitless to talk about love for God without obedience (Turner). Jesus is the True Vine (Jn 15:1f.) to whom we must remain connected to through loving obedience (Jn 15:4f.)
  • Remaining independent from God vs. remaining in dependence on God (Turner)
  • We should love Jesus and love like Jesus because He first loved us (1 Jn 4:19)

Videos: Self-Sacrifice

When making the point about self-sacrifice being the greatest act of love, I included embedded a few clips of some heroic mothers who sacrificed themselves for their children:


Greek Text (UBS5)

9 καθὼς ἠγάπησέν με ὁ πατήρ, κἀγὼ ὑμᾶς ἠγάπησα· μείνατε ἐν τῇ ἀγάπῃ τῇ ἐμῇ. 10 ἐὰν τὰς ἐντολάς μου τηρήσητε, μενεῖτε ἐν τῇ ἀγάπῃ μου, καθὼς ἐγὼ τὰς ἐντολὰς τοῦ πατρός μου τετήρηκα καὶ μένω αὐτοῦ ἐν τῇ ἀγάπῃ.1

11 Ταῦτα λελάληκα ὑμῖν ἵνα ἡ χαρὰ ἡ ἐμὴ ἐν ὑμῖν ᾖ καὶ ἡ χαρὰ ὑμῶν πληρωθῇ. 12 αὕτη ἐστὶν ἡ ἐντολὴ ἡ ἐμή, ἵνα ἀγαπᾶτε ἀλλήλους καθὼς ἠγάπησα ὑμᾶς. 13 μείζονα ταύτης ἀγάπην οὐδεὶς ἔχει, ἵνα τις τὴν ψυχὴν αὐτοῦ θῇ ὑπὲρ τῶν φίλων αὐτοῦ. 14 ὑμεῖς φίλοι μού ἐστε ἐὰν ποιῆτε ἃ ἐγὼ ἐντέλλομαι ὑμῖν.2


9 As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you. Remain in my love. 10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, as I have kept the commands of my father and remain in His love. 11 This is what I have told you so that my joy in you and your joy may be complete.

12 This is my command: that you should love one another as I have loved you. 13 No one has greater love than this: that one give up one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command you.


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  1. Barbara Aland et al., eds., The Greek New Testament, Fifth Revised Edition (Stuttgart, Germany: Deutsche Bibelgesellschaft, 2014), Jn 15:9–10.
  2. Barbara Aland et al., eds., The Greek New Testament, Fifth Revised Edition (Stuttgart, Germany: Deutsche Bibelgesellschaft, 2014), Jn 15:11–14.
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